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Wednesday, June 4, 2014

The Sun Can't Shine the Same

The Sun Can’t Shine the Same
By: Monica Renata

Today it was 90 degrees
Sweat dripped down my neck
The children played outside happily
While adults decided to suntan and relax on their decks

The water was so sparkling blue
Just like the blue sky in which the birds soar
The flowers smelled so bittersweet
A smell that makes you yearn for more

A beautiful day to say the least
Yet I am surprised this day came
For even though it is joyous outside
I know the sun can’t shine the same

To have the heat that once radiated
Turn into something cold
Flesh that was lively with color
Can now only been seen in the words of stories told

The brightest light I ever had
The light that let me see
Through the darkest of dark places
That light that had never failed me

But in an instant that light stopped
And that glow decided to cease
And with that soul lost
My world lost a masterpiece

Now in the sunniest of days
I realize that time is short
I love unconditionally
I no longer treat feelings like an ugly wart

I use to bask in the sun all day
And never appreciated that it was there
On the stormiest days when it’s presence was gone
I pretended that I didn’t care

But to lose it forever
I never thought this would be
So while the sun still shines for others
I know the sun can’t shine the same for me

“To dwell in my own memories….. To now wish for what I always had….. To want to reach for someone.….. To know that they aren’t there…… Appreciate the loved ones in your life. Don’t wait til it is too late to realize how important someone is to you.” –Monica Renata

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Monday, June 2, 2014

The Bully: Does it Exist in the Adult World?

The Bully: Does it Exist in the Adult World?
Monica Renata


The Bully
Noun
a person who uses strength or power to harm or intimidate those who are weaker.

I remember when I was growing up, I feared the bully…. You know that person who would try to make your life a living hell even on the sunniest days? That bully who your heart would just stop when you were in their presence because you just knew that your bit of happiness was about to be ripped away in just a matter of seconds……I feared this person greatly, but the only thing that brought calmness to my heart was the fact that I only encountered this bully at school. Once the bell rang and I got on the bus to go home, I was finally able to escape that hell. I was able to live freely once again without the constant terror of being punched, teased, or constantly embarrassed. I was home……..where those who loved me also reside.

Even in my teen years, I encountered bullies, but I just knew that once school ended I would encounter this no longer. I knew that once I exited grade schools I would leave behind the bullies and just walk into a world of positivity that had nothing but great things in store for me. I thought bullies didn’t exist after the age of 18. I thought people who were bullies grew out of it….. I thought so many things but…… I think in some aspects I was wrong. You see, many of us believe that bullying only happens in our childhood, however, is that actually so?

As adults, we do not use the word bully as much. We use it if a kid is being picked on, but as far as adult usage, it is rarely used. Adults seem to use such phrases as “they constantly disrespect me”, “they constantly try to ridicule me in front of others”, or “they talk to me like I am trash”….they never call that person a bully, they just think it is a person behaving badly. Why is that?

Are adults afraid to admit that they are being mistreated by others?
Are adults afraid to associate their situations with those of adolescent teens and elementary kids?

When researching bullying, one of the first websites which pops up is stopbullying.org. According to this website the definition is as follows:

Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior among school aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time. Both kids who are bullied and who bully others may have serious lasting problems.

In order to be considered bullying, the behavior must be aggressive and include:
§  An Imbalance of Power: Kids who bully use their power-such as physical strength, access to embarrassing information, or popularity – to control or harm others. Power imbalances can change over time and in different situations even if they involve the same people.
§  Repetition: Bullying behaviors happen more than once or have the potential to happen more than once.

………But don’t some adults experience the same thing? ………..

I have seen many adults constantly humiliate others for no reason at all.
I have seen adults expose embarrassing information about someone in order to “get back” at them.
I have seen someone who holds a powerful position, control someone’s actions just because of the amount of power in the community they possess…….

But why isn’t this called bullying? ……….

So what do you think? Do you believe that bullying only happens in the adolescent world or do you think it can exist in adult lives as well?

 Monica Renata 
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Friday, May 30, 2014

I feel sorry for no one………….

I feel sorry for no one………….

I know that sounds so heartless but it is true. Hell, I don’t even feel sorry for myself at times because I realize that despite all of the hardships I encounter, I encounter those hardships because I allow myself to encounter them. Many times, we neglect responsibility for our actions. People nowadays feel as though they “deserve” things, when in actuality you deserve nothing. At the end of the day, every adult is where they are because of the decisions they DECIDED to make.

I use to feel sorry for myself………. I use to blame everyone for my problems except myself. I blamed my current situation on the way in which I was raised, the family’s financial backgrounds, and also on the others who surrounded me……In a sense, that does affect you when you are younger, however, once you become an adult that really doesn't matter. I realized how foolish I was for casting all blame on others instead of looking for blame within myself.

 If I was unhappy, it was because I allowed myself to be unhappy.
If I felt unloved, it was because I refused to love my  own self.
If I was constantly losing jobs because I was running late to work, it was because I needed to correct myself and figure out a way to get there on time.

LIFE IS NOT AS HARD AS WE SAY!!! So many times I hear people say they are poor because they don’t have cable tv. I hear people say that there aren’t any opportunities in this world for them, when I see opportunity knock constantly on their door and they deny it access into their life… People are……well.......People are stupid at times.

We say we want to be surrounded by those who love us, yet we seek the attention of those who do not.
We say we want better opportunities in life, yet we are too afraid to venture into the unknown.
We say we want more time to handle the important things in life, yet each morning when we are granted a new day to live we waste it doing meaningless things instead of what we really love…..

But why? …………

You know…….. Life is truly what you make it. And if someone says that they have a horrible life I really do not feel sorry for them…. Life is what you make it. Whether you make it a Disney adventure or a slow ride in hell is YOUR CHOICE. Once you become an adult, you have to start living your life for you. Sure stuff happens! STUFF HAPPENS TO EVERYONE. But the difference is how you let that STUFF affect you. So many people wallow in their own grief after a breakup or some other unfortunate event, and never take the time to look at all the positive around them. When you look at all the negative things in life, that list of negatives tends to go on and on. However, when  you look at the positives….that list stops short, but why?

I guess what I’m trying to say is… Pick yourself back up and stop feeling sorry for yourself…… There are so many great things in life that you miss out on by having a negative mind.

Stop worrying about those who don’t like you.
Stop worrying about those times that you failed.
Stop worrying about all of the things that make you unhappy and START LIVING!!

YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY!

We all do………… So we need to stop letting our minds keep us from that….
At the end of the day, life is truly what you make it. Your life is a concoction of your expectations, decisions, and realities. You can decide to add a little bit of sugar to it to make it sweet, or you can throw in some Tabasco to make it fiery hot…but at the end of the day… That is your life.

So stop feeling sorry for yourself… And just live


Have a great day, 


 Monica Renata 
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Wednesday, May 28, 2014

Finding Happy

Finding Happy
By: Monica Renata

In a world of endless thunderstorms
Surrounded by the unknown
I hide my head underneath my arms
I wish to be back home

Shrouded by my own inner fears
Afraid of what may come next
I remain the spot that I started in
So emotionally unattached

Waiting for my hero
But will they ever come
To be alone in this fury
To be alone in hell on earth

Fire consumes my soul
Yet I can also feel the light
That radiates inside of me
That wants me to continue to fight

It offers me words of encouragement
Words which were never once there
It offers me these kind words
This brought inner peace within

Life can be hard sometimes
There are many things you will go through
Just remember to remain positive
And always see things through

In a world of endless thunderstorms
I found that I was my own friend
And I looked deep inside and realized
That fear shouldn’t reside within

Overwhelmed by my blistering hope
I no longer wished to be
The person who was afraid of trying
The person who was scared to just see

Waiting for my hero
But the whole time it was me
I think I finally found my happy
Here is where I want to be

Monica Renata 
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Tuesday, May 27, 2014

The Rock

You will never know what love truly is until you fully love yourself.…. – Monica Renata


Love. We all want it. Many of us search for a lifetime to find it, but do we really know what it is? I have felt as though I have loved before, but was that true? To find beauty within a rock that has been weathered by so many storms…..That beautiful rock which is you. Take time to discover what makes you special….. Take the time to love yourself fully. Love yourself more than you thought you could ever be loved……..and then when another love crosses your path, you will know if it is worth putting your heart at risk.




The Rock
By: Monica Renata

To place it on a pedestal
To bow before its feet
Seems like an uninspiring thing
Its importance is of the least

It is just so plain and shallow
It stays the same each time
No one wants to marvel the rock
That is not hard to find

Reflection seen every day
Yet it does not mean much
A rock that has been weathered by many storms
Yet never felt that touch

That touch of love that bursts within
That radiates from sea to sea
The acceptance of the realization
That that rock is me

So what is there to like about it?
Yet, what is there to hide?
Constantly questioning my own value
Constantly wondering why

Why am I important?
Why do I have value today?
What makes me so special?
What makes people in my life stay?

Always doubting the beauty within
Yet believing all the negative hype
But today I decide to cast away
The negativity associated with the rock

Beautiful in its own way
It has such a marvelous hue
Its endurance is never-ending
Its strength is unparalleled too

The gracefulness to tap dance on water
The weight to sink deep down
The malleability to forge into a weapon
The ability to survive time after time

Weathered by many storms
So many times cast into the sea
Yet I returned to land each time
Smoothened out by harsh conditions around me

And for that I love myself more
I realize the strength within me
I learn to love myself regardless
Of what others may think of me

To place it on a pedestal
To bow before its feet
Seems like an uninspiring thing
Its importance is of the least

But the value of some great things
Aren’t always seen
But love from within is priceless
And it will never leave

So love yourself undoubtedly
Appreciate all the flaws within
Never doubt your own existence
Know your value from within

Love yourself so truly
Even if others may not
For you are a valuable person
Just like the almighty rock







Monica Renata 
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Friday, May 23, 2014

Waiting For Others to Hold My Hand

Waiting For Others to Hold My Hand
By : Monica Renata


I use to be afraid
Of the many tasks at hand

I shouted and complained
Because others wouldn’t hold my hand

I wanted to venture forward
But in the end I would always stop

I wanted to accomplish my tasks
Yet alone I felt I could not

A burning fiery desire
Enclosed within my chest

In my mind I felt I can do anything
I believe that I have time left

However, there are many things that I want to do
Yet it is confidence that I lack

So instead I wait for others to come
While my dreams I decide to push back

But one day I shall wake up
And I will finally be able to see

That while I waited for someone to hold my hand
Time never waited for me

Long has past my days of youth
My life is fading away fast

I have goals I have never reached
Yet I have more excuses than fingers on my hand

The agony of defeat
Oh how I have wasted my time

I should have lived how I wanted to live
Instead of waiting for others to hold my hand



“Sometimes you have to live life according to your time schedule and stop “waiting” for others to show up. It is better to do things alone at times, than to not do them at all.” – Monica Renata






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Thursday, May 22, 2014

Let Freedom Ring

Let Freedom Ring
By: Monica Renata

Upon the grassy fields in front
I look at my team of men
So battered by the enemy’s fire
Yet hope still resides within

To move forward brings an ounce of fear
But this fear shall be overcome
For I am a soldier today
And I shall fight through the rise and set of the sun

An overwhelming sense of pride
A burst of complete relief
My children’s children will know their grandfather
And like me they shall aspire to be

A hero I shall be today
But not only I, you see
For my men and I shall die for this country
So that we may forever let freedom ring








Monica Renata 
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Tuesday, May 20, 2014

Stormy Day

Stormy Day
By: Monica Renata

Today it rained
It rained so hard
It rained so much that all of the water washed away all of the happiness on my face
And just when I thought it couldn’t get any worse…
Thunder…
And Lightning…
The two scariest things in the world to me started to occur

Cowered in a corner of fear
I sat
I wished
I prayed to be somewhere else
But I remained here

Surrounded by my reality which was not going to flee
I had make a breakthrough
I had to finally stand up for me
But in the dark
As I was in that pouring rain
My heart skipped a beat
I was deathly afraid
But how shall I live life
If I am afraid to?
How can I be happy
If I’m afraid to do what I must do?

So I wipe away all the tears on my face
And realize that this storm is something I will have to embrace
I can’t let it hold me down
I can’t let it break me
I can’t be scared of where I am destined to be
So forward I march
Despite the rain and the thunder
Lightning strikes ahead
But I decide to march on further
Into my future
Into the place where I’m supposed to be
Through the stormy day
I have to realize that like this it won’t always be

Today it rained
It rained so hard
It rained so much that all of the water washed away all of the happiness on my face
And just when I thought it couldn’t get any worse…
The sun shined brightly in the corner of my eye
The lightning subsided and the rain stopped
And when I finally looked around to see
I realized that happiness was what surrounded me

Oh stormy weather
Thanks for making me see
That throughout my darkest battles I can make it
Even when I don’t believe
For I am more stronger than I sometimes believe
I just have to follow the light that resides in me


Monica Renata 
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