So many of us hold on to toxic relationships for far too long. We believe that everything will get better if we fix one aspect of the relationship. However, we don't know what aspect that is....
Why are we so afraid of being alone? I see so many men and women stay with someone who mistreats and does not appreciate them. I have seen many hold on to the hope that if they fix "one thing" then everything will get better....but as time moves forward the situation doesn't improve. I mean, is it that bad to be single?
At times, we find ourselves holding on to someone because we are afraid to be alone. But why? You were single before you met your partner. So therefore, being single is something you have experienced before. In addition, being single DOES NOT mean that you are alone!!
At the end of the day, you have to love yourself. You have to feel comfortable being surrounded by you. Take this time to get to know yourself. Sometimes we lose ourselves in another person and we forget who we really are.
So don't ever lose yourself in someone else. Always remember what you deserve and never settle for anything less than that.
And remember this: People were not created to be mistreated.
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ReplyDeleteI don't have a fear of being Single. It's sad to say, but being single is a comfort zone for me. I think being in a relationship, some people feel obligated to do certain things all the time like call everyday and be around each other most of the time even if they don't feel like it . If I were in a realtionship, I would want it to be really organic, meaning I don't have to call if I don't feel like talking everyday or the person that I'm in a relationship with doesn't have to call if they don't feel like it either everyday. Also, we would not have to be around each other 24/7. Quality time is important don't get me wrong, but too much of anything is bad. In general, I think what holds a "good & true" relationship together (when there is a relationship) is how important that person is to you as a person & how genuine you feeling are towards that person. Too many people want to be in a "relationship" with other people for the wrong reasons now a days. Although I wouldn't mind getting to know someone better, which in my mind is not being in a relationship. I think you have to be true friends (meaning it doesn't matter if I hear from that person or see that person in weeks,months, or years, you will always be friends, because that foundation has been made) & their well-being (like health, safety, stuff like that) then a relationship will come in time.
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