I am
too nice
I'm too nice....
That's my problem... I'm really too nice. And when people act ugly towards me I
don't have it in me to treat them the same way...
I grew
up being taught the Golden Rule. You know, “Treat people the way
you would like to be treated”…… I treat others with kindness because at the end
of the day that is the same kindness that I would like to be returned to me.
Genuine kindness……
The
type of kindness where if someone was crying you would give up your precious
valuable time to be their shoulder to cry on.
The
type of kindness where you offer your last just so someone could have something.
The
type of kindness where you would give up a few minutes of your happiness just
to see someone else smile...
So
genuine…..So true……..Yet it so often seems that the world does not appreciate
people like that.
Kindness
has become a thing of the past. Everyone
must equip themselves with an iron heart because emotions are trampled on
daily, kindness is deemed to be a weakness, and quite frankly having evil ways
(whether it be using or disrespecting someone) has become the norm.
To be
such a kind person in an unkind world………Must be hard at times…….
I
have said to myself so many times “I am too nice”………
I
have told myself that “I will start treating others as coldly as they treat
me”……
I
say “I won’t let this hurt my feelings anymore. I
will stop being nice”……
But
at the end of the day……I remain the same.
I remain
the person who checks on others to make sure they are doing okay.
I remain
the person who goes out of my way to bring medicine or food to a friend if they
are sick.
I remain
the person who smiles despite knowing that this kindness will never be returned…..
A
friend once told me the following, “A consequence of being nice and doing stuff
for people is that you can never expect that in return or else you will be
disappointed.”
For so
long, I thought this was a foolish statement. I honestly thought that others too
knew of the Golden
Rule, which they did; however many only use it when it benefits
them. So selfish…….but what can you do? That’s life……….
I
guess it all comes down to “To Be” or “Not to Be”……….
Do
you want to be a nice person or not?
Do
you want to live selflessly or selfishly?
Do
you want the possibility of having your feelings hurt if you are taken
advantage of or do you have it in you to be okay with the outcome either way it
goes?
I’m
too nice……That may be so true. My feelings may be hurt so many times, but no
matter what, I will still smile. I will still be that person who tries to
brighten others day. I will still be that person who checks up on others to
make sure all is well. I will still be that person who helps others even though
I may need help at times. And no, this does not mean I am a weak person.
Kind
Adjective.
Having or showing a gentle
nature and a desire to help others: wanting and liking to do good things and to
bring happiness to others
What
is so weak about that person? What is so wrong about trying to spread
happiness? What is wrong with being kind?......
I
believe that nothing is wrong with it. There is no such thing as being “Too
Nice”! You are yourself. You are a great person, and don’t let anyone tell you
otherwise. It isn’t your fault that others take advantage of your gentle
nature. In all honestly, when someone takes advantage of a nice person they are
actually ruining so much for themselves.
When a
kind person’s heart begins to become icy cold, it doesn’t really have that much
emotion left. All the bruises from being trampled on so many times may heal,
but the heart no longer beats with kindness; it beats with rage and resentment.
When a kind person dies inside, it isn’t a good thing for anyone really. With
so much negativity in the world……..why deprive the world of someone who’s joy
is to bring happiness to others?......
I
guess what I’m trying to say is this……..
If you
are a nice person, please continue to be nice. Don’t let the world change you.
And if
you know nice people, please do not use them. Appreciate them, for it is very
rare that we come across selfless people. Too many times we purely focus on
ourselves and neglect those who go out of their way for us. Too many times we
forget about people until the moment when we need them. Too many times we act
ugly with each other because we feel as though our kindness will be taken as
weakness and we will be used……..
I'm too nice....
That's my problem... I'm really too nice. And when people act ugly towards me I
don't have it in me to treat them the same way...
But at
the end of the day, I rather be a nice person than to be someone I am not………I guess it all comes down to “To Be” or “Not to Be”……….
Have a
great day,
