Think about all the times you have been called this in your
life…
And I’m not talking about the word ‘bitch’ which was popularized
by the likes of Paris Hilton and others to refer to their best friend.
I’m talking about the word Bitch
B-I-T-C-H
You know, commonly used in the following forms:
“You are being a bitch!!”
“You have a bitchy
attitude!”
“You Bitch!”
For quite some time, I have been constantly wondering what
makes someone call you such a name. I mean, according to the dictionary I find
the following definitions:
Bitch (noun)
1.
The female of the dog or some other mammal
2.
A lewd or immoral woman
3.
A malicious, spiteful, or overbearing woman –
sometimes used as a generalized term of abuse
4.
Something that is extremely difficult, objectionable,
or unpleasant
Now let’s go back to the time someone called you a bitch.
Did you fit any of these definitions? Are you a dog? Are you lewd and immoral? Are
you malicious and overbearing? Are you a thing? I bet your answer is no.
Congrats!!!! I feel the same way. Now if I asked you to pick a definition which
fits closely to why you believe you were called a bitch, the majority would
choose the third definition which is:
·
Bitch (noun)
- a malicious, spiteful, or overbearing woman – sometimes used as a generalized
form of abuse.
You see that last word? ABUSE?
Usually when a female is called a bitch it is usually by a
person of the opposite sex. And you know what ladies, so many of us accept this
because we feel that “hey, maybe I was getting on his nerves” or “maybe I was
being overbearing.” But the truth of the matter is… IT IS STILL ABUSE!
Have you ever looked further into you being called a bitch? Have
you ever analyzed the entire situation? Where were you? What was going on? More
than likely you two were having an argument, right? And you were taking all of
his low blows he was throwing at you. You let him verbally degrade you and you
didn’t say a thing. And then a light bulb went off in your head and you realized
you shouldn’t be spoken to in such a manner so you decide to SPEAK UP!
You calmly speak and say how you feel and then you are
quickly cut off by him saying “You are a bitch!”
At this moment, you are confused because you are standing up
for yourself. I mean, isn’t that what you are supposed to do? And as this
thought is going through your mind you are standing in complete silent because
he is still going on about how you are a bitch and you have a bitchy attitude….
Words have different meanings to different people. Today, I
find that many define the word bitch as “A female who takes up for herself”. So
if that’s the definition of the word nowadays, then Ladies I suggest that you
be the best Bitch that you can be!!!!!
Don’t ever let a man or anyone run over you and think it is
okay. Just because someone doesn’t physically hit you does not mean it is not
ABUSE. Too many times we let things like this slide because we feel as though
we might deserve it just a little, but no one deserves to be verbally abused.
I feel so sorry for the younger children who are in
relationships and this happens to them. Verbal abuse can be so much for even an
adult to handle. And nowadays it is worst because verbal abuse can not only
happen face to face but can also transpire onto social networks.
If you see someone going through this, please help them
realize their worth! If someone is calling them a bitch constantly, encourage
them to address the situation and if it doesn’t get better LEAVE! If this is
you going through the same thing, I suggest you do the same as well.
Never feel bad
for standing up for yourself! Never
allow abuse of whatever form to continuously happen again and again and again. Your life has value!! You have worth!! And if someone can’t
recognize this, then have the courage to walk away!
-Monica Renata
